In our human experience we come across discoveries.
A major discovery is that once we have finished with this physical, the ones we have left behind could not reach us anymore.
What I do to appreciate the one that is living counts, and what I do after does not count.
My appreciation of life is to feel other lives around me because once any of these lives pass on, I won't be able to express my feelings towards the one that has passed.
I surrender to the fact that we need to love life.