In memory of

Sheila Heys

September 10, 1939 -  April 24, 2021

Born in Barbados in 1939, Sheila spent much of her happy childhood helping her family manage a lighthouse at the tip of the island, in the Parish of St. Lucy.  With a caring nature and adventurous spirit, Sheila initially began a career in nursing at the Barbados General Hospital, leaving in 1962 to further her training in Portsmouth, England. After two years of training, and a six month course in paediatrics, she left England for Canada in 1965. 
 
In Canada, Sheila continued her career at the Toronto Western Hospital and then later at the Etobicoke General Hospital.  During those years, Sheila met and married Stephen Weekes; together they had two children in the early 1970’s and moved to Brampton.  When the marriage ended, Sheila continued to love, care, and guide Paula and Joel into adulthood while working full-time to provide for her family.  Sending both Paula and Joel to the University of Western was a culmination of all that she had sacrificed as they were growing up and gave her a boundless sense of pride.  Having worked in nursing for over 30 years Sheila took a well-deserved retirement in the 1990’s.
 
In 1996, during a holiday in Barbados, Sheila met Brian Heys, they married on the same island 3 years later in a beautiful ceremony on the beach. For the next decade and a half Sheila travelled the world with Brian, visiting Spain, Hawaii, Alaska, Bermuda and many other places… but visiting Barbados most of all. During this time Paula married Philip, and Sheila was overjoyed to become a grandmother to Sophia and Sasha, a step-mum to Brian’s children Susan and David, and a Nana to Susan’s children Alyssa, Matthew, Nicholas and Laura.

In the final few years as Brian became ill, Sheila continued her lifelong calling as a faithful caregiver until he sadly passed in March 2020.  The onset of the COVID-19 Pandemic and the loss of her partner brought its own challenges for someone with such a caring, active and adventurous spirit.  Despite these challenges, she remained in good spirits, keeping as busy as possible, and mastered using her iPhone and iPad to keep in touch with family and friends. In April of 2021, Sheila was admitted to hospital with shortness of breath and passed away a week later from pulmonary hypertension.
 
Sheila will be remembered for her strength, her kindness, her humour and her creativity. Her handmade quilts are family heirlooms, her fishcakes are legendary and her home and garden were always places of beauty and comfort. Sheila worked hard but didn’t complain, and was sustained by a faith which she rarely spoke about but surely gave her an inner strength. In her later life she was able to travel in Europe with her children and grandchildren and enjoy some of the very best things life had to offer. And as she dropped off Paula and Joel at university thirty years earlier, she was there to drop off her granddaughter Sophia when she entered Queen’s University in Kingston. Sheila loved and was loved by her family and friends, who treasure the times they had with her, but wish she could have been around for longer.

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We know many people loved Sheila and wish to say a proper good-bye to her. The COVID-19 restrictions will delay that, but our plan is to hold a big celebration of Sheila’s life later this year in the summer or autumn.

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Susan Heys (Stepdaughter)

Entered April 28, 2021 from BARRIE

Sheila,
What do I say about the warm wonderfully loving woman who saved my dad's life?
I remember the story dad told me about how he met Sheila. He was going on vacation to Barbados by himself. He approaches the check-in and sees Sheila bent over her bag and he made a cheesy pickup attempt. Before they disembarked he had secured a date to a young couples wedding with Sheila as his plus one. But the best thing about him telling me the story was the huge grin on his face when he talked about her. When he got sick before you were married I knew that he was safe with you by his side. You nursed him back to health, you gave him a new family, you gave him a reason to live. You accepted his family as messed up as we are, you became the only Nana known to Alyssa and Matthew who love you. While we were not that close later in life there was a period in my life when you made me feel like I wished that you were the mom that raised me instead of my mom and how different I would have probably have turned out. I never told you how much you really meant to me. I also know how much you made dad happy and I feel in my heart that when you arrived in heaven he was standing there in front of everyone with open arms just waiting for you.
Love you always
Sue

Nick Deleseleuc (Grandson)

Entered April 29, 2021 from Barrie

You were a sweet woman, with a giant heart. You brought alot of joy into the world, even more so in Papa's life. It saddens me to know that you are no longer with us in this life, but I know you are happy in the next life with papa and all of our loved ones. May your your light shine bright in the heavens above

David Heys (Step Son)

Entered May 2, 2021 from Barrie, Ontario

There are people who enter your lives, and naturally, easily, become such a part of your lives. A person fundamental to your emotional bedrock. The problem with such, is that you come to take them for granted. As if they'll always be there. And then, one day, they're not. I truly cherish every moment I got to spend with you Sheila. And I deeply, deeply regret not making an effort to enjoy more. Rest well. Enjoy your journey onto the next stage of things. I hope one day we'll meet up again. All my love,

David

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