From grandkids perspective
Agon loved ama very much
They always were holding hands, even at home, sitting on couch watching tv
If she was not in the same room, he’d ask where she is
Never forgot about ama, even in the hospital, he would ask how she’s doing
Dignified and well put together
At public functions, we remember lots of people, strangers to us, would come up to shake his hand and talk to him. He always had a smile when receiving others.
He was impeccably dressed, often in a suit
Agon had the same hairstyle for as long as we can remember and it was always done well. Every strand of hair was always in place. I remember the first time I saw agon with his hair out of place though. It was one of the first times victor and I slept over, and the first thing in the morning when we woke up and went to their bedroom, it was so surprising to see him with not perfect hair, after getting out of bed. But other than that, always perfect.
Consistent, creature of habit
During our times at his house, we often saw agon making his sandwich for lunch the next day. It was always the same sandwich that was packed full of ?tuna and lettuce, tomatoes. And it was so full that he would have to saran wrap it.
And when we went into his fridge to find something to eat, we’d find diet yogurt and diet sprite. I always found the sprite tasted a little funny but I developed a liking for the diet yogurt.
He kept in shape and we remember getting killed at arm wrestling even when we teamed up against him, and his vice like grip that would hurt our hands afterwards.
Lastly we remember all the small things he did to show his love and care. Although he didn’t talk very much, his actions spoke louder than words.
He’d bring us candy when we came over, hard red and orange candies that had a fizzy centre.
At christmas, we looked forward to getting red envelope from him. He even gave victor and i more than grace and lester (so i’m told) when we were younger...props to the age hierarchy. This extended to other acts of generosity. When he found out I was going to buy my first condo, during lunch time at a restaurant, he quietly handed me an envelope. I thought it was well wishes but it also contained a cheque which he later told me was to help with the downpayment.
Although he was busy, he took time out of his schedule to take us on outings to ride ponies, and Ontario Place to sit on the swan rides and feed ducks.
When he came over to give us flu shots, grace would grab lester and not only hide but locked themselves in the bathroom to avoid agon. But he would wait patiently until they finally came out. He never got angry or frustrated at us.
He was also there and present at important milestones, my high school graduation, my med school graduation in London, even moving to Kingston for residency.
One time my friend was suppose to drop me off at the airport at 5am because ba and ma were out of town. My friend overslept. It was agon and ama who called me early that morning to make sure I was picked up. When I told them what happened, agon came and picked me up to drive me to the airport.
I remember one time complaining to him about my med school workload, and he would half teasingly but fully caringly encourage me that it’s not so bad. He reminded me that he went through the physician training process 3 times, in taiwan, US, and canada to get to where he was. I think that sums up how he cared and looked after his family, willing to endure the hardships to give us a better and brighter future.
We love you agon, and you’ll be greatly missed but we know we’ll see you again in heaven.
II Timothy 4:7-8
I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. From now on there is reserved for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous judge, will give me on that day, and not only to me but also to all who have longed for his appearing.
