In memory of

Mary Jay Laughlin

May 13, 1938 -  January 5, 2022

On Wednesday, January 5, 2022, Mary Jay Laughlin, passed away peacefully in Newmarket, Ontario at the age of 83. On May 13th 1938, she was born to T. Ben Laughlin and Claire (Suki) Laughlin in Trinidad and Tobago. She is survived by her four loving children and their families: Nicola Stefaniuk; Paul Stefaniuk, his wife Jayleen, and their two children Nieya and Alyssa; Sarah Stefaniuk and her wife Danielle Pelczarski; and Sonja Stefaniuk. She will be missed by her brother Thomas (Tommy) Laughlin, his wife Doreen, and their children, her brother David Laughlin, his wife Jenny, and their children as well as her sister-in-law, Sonja Tessier and her children.

Growing up in Trinidad, she attended school at St. Joseph’s Convent, travelled to England to finish her studies, and returned to Trinidad briefly and worked at a bank. But England had lighted her desire to seek new experiences. She spent the late 1950s and early 1960s in London, England living amongst an artistic crowd and, in her free time, enjoyed singing and acting and exploring Europe. It was there in 1962, that she met the love of her life, Walter Stefaniuk (d. 2011), and married him on July 26, 1962. In November of that same year, they took the last passage of the year to cross the Atlantic Ocean to Canada, where they settled and started their family.

Above all else, Jay (as she was always known), was a devoted mother to her children. She had a diverse career too, most often working in real estate. Her passions were abundant and eclectic: performing in local theatre companies during her early days in Canada, music, reading, movies, politics, cooking, crafts, interior decorating, and entertaining. She was famous for creating warm and welcoming spaces for both friends and strangers alike. She will always be remembered for her big heart, mischievous sense of humor, and vivacious spirit.


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Sara Potter (She was a dear friend)

Entered January 10, 2022 from London

Robert and i have been family friends now for over 30 years. We saw Jay as a warm hearted loving Mum who seemed at times to be larger than life. She radiated energy and seemed to fill life. Talented and highly creative, Jay used life like a giant canvas to create and build ... big and small things ... important and inconsequential things ... material and intangible things ... beautiful homes, friendships, and loving, accomplished children any Mother and Father would be thrilled to call theipr own. Robert and i can only hope to be so lucky with our own children.

Please know that we care deeply about Jay's passing and are thinking of you all in this moment of sadness.

Sally Potter and Robert Stephens

Barry and Leslie DOLAN (Friend)

Entered January 10, 2022 from Oakville on.

Words cannot possibly begin to express how sad it is to bid farewell to our dear good
friend…..wonderful memories will live on for ever of our good times together…..Rest in Pease “Lovie”, we shall meet again someday.

Love you and will miss you.


Ayn Armitage (Friend)

Entered January 10, 2022 from Toronto

So sad to lose my friend. You were always such a joy and fun to be with. Will treasure the wonderful memories of our trip to Italy in 2002. Will miss you.

Penny Sellier (Niece)

Entered January 10, 2022 from Trinidad and Tobago

Farewell Aunty Jay. Love and hugs to my Canadian cousins Nicky, Paul, Sarah and Sonya. Thinking of you all. XXX

Carol Jukes (whiting) (Old friend)

Entered January 10, 2022 from Vancouver, BC

I will always remember the happy days our family and Jays family spent growing up in Ottawa. We all had so much fun together. Memories that will stay with me forever. She was a wonderful, fun loving and dear friend.


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